1. In an interview I read with Lynne Tillman last night, she ends by saying, “I wish to hell that I’d said no more to men in my 20s.” And that really struck me because I wonder all the time why so many of my female peers, friends, and colleagues say yes to men so much. Why they find it so easy to be with one man after another. Why they find it pleasurable. Acceptable. Repeatable. Seems like the first step is always to be less interested/enchanted/susceptible (by most men). To be less frequently interested. To not be interested. To be interested in a different way. In new ways. Even though we can’t always control what and why we desire what/who we desire, I feel like desire should have something to do with reality. Should go against some aspect of the reality of most male behavior, of routine sex, of stale desire. Of an exhausted gender tautology. Even if you have to suppress your desire for something or someone shitty, for something or someone better, that’s not a bad thing. Sometimes life and people do need to be taught lessons. Sometimes we have to force ourselves to learn. Sometimes doing shit on principle alone, goes a long way. Without an audience, the game dries up. The game is the player. Duh.


  2. "When my first book, Haunted Houses, came out, I didn’t know what to expect. I thought I expected nothing, and it turned out I expected everything. So I was vastly disappointed.”

    -Lynne Tillman, Interview Magazine


  3. Inter-be

    You need other beings in order to be

    It is impossible to be yourself alone

    To be means to inter-be

    Never doubt I love


  4. agameofme:

    I started reading Masha Tupitsyn's book Love Dog today. The book is a deeply personal reckoning with her feelings for one person, and also a book about film, music, gender, feminism, politics and all the forces that influence the ways that we connect, think about connecting, or fail to…

  5. All shook up


    "Doesn’t feel like a passing phase"
    —Phantasms (1994), Adrian Martin


  6. -Once Upon a Time in America, 1984


  7. New website for my press Penny-Ante, which includes a webpage my forthcoming 24 hour sound project, Love Sounds .


  8. "Everything takes time. I’m starting to think that the only things that keep people going are forgiveness and time.

    We are all humiliated.
    Forgiveness is not a mark of lost dignity.”

    -Jarett Kobek, BTW


  9. The mediocre and untalented shall (and already are) inherit the earth. And the beautiful set of artistic dictums below rule out most of the people writing and making art today. Especially the part about the art of timing, which Twitter and Facebook have all but eliminated. Also too young too soon too fast too constant. Everyone thinks they should have everything immediately. Everything all the time. How boring for everyone else, only everyone acts like this is so interesting by “liking” things all day long and posting all day long. And no one ever goes away anymore, which everyone should know how to do if they want to come back, or if they want to be in a way that is worth being (I wrote about this in an essay about 90s film here). If they want to be writers. Because being a writer/thinker is also about shutting the fuck up sometimes and leaving alone and being left alone. But you would never know this in an age when being noisy and omnipresent has become the equivalent of being great and successful. I feel like even when people are smart (in the raw material sense) they don’t know what to do with their brains anymore; how to use them; what to use them for, what not to use them for (using is also about not using). How to tell things apart. This—discernment—is also a kind of intelligence, maybe the most important kind—knowing what to do with one’s thinking. What Bresson referred to as the right feeling for the right thing, “passionate for the appropriate.” Sparing by being spare. These days the result of different people’s thinking basically adds up to the same thing—stupidity, complicity, fraternity.

    "I told M. Abrahamovic Petrovitch that I admired her longevity.

    You are dangerously close to calling me ancient, she said

    It’s not about age, I said. It’s just that so many careers flame out or end up mediocre and I’m left wondering why anyone bothered. But you’re different. You’re work is never bad.

    Dear child, is that all? asked M. Abrahamovic Petrovitch. To achieve a lasting career one need only be dedicated to craft, avoid early success, ignore the things that people say about one’s output, and master the art of timing.

    So it’s simple.

    As simple as a flower. And that’s a complicated thing.”

    -Jarett Kobek, BTW


  10. -Interview with a Vampire, 1994