Zizek always talks about the loss of loss. Yesterday in class he said it again. Yesterday I did something I shouldn’t have and the reaction I had to the person I did what I should not have done with made no difference to the person I was reacting to. And I thought: we have also lost the ability to feel rejected because people don’t really care whether they are wanted or unwanted anymore. At least not in any real way. Wanted and unwanted are one and the same now. You have and then you don’t have. Either one is fine. No one is invested enough in anything or anyone to feel something as gripping and arresting as loss. To feel like I lost: myself, you, him, her, that, a chance.